Saturday, July 2, 2011

Five Helpful Tips On How To Forgive Others

Forgiveness is seldom easy for anyone. Studies show that bitter feelings can come from not forgiving others and actually cause health problems. At the root of all forgiveness is the need for acceptance. When a person is asking you to pardon them, they are seeking acceptance.

1. Give It Time

If someone has hurt you deeply, recognize that these wounds do not heal quickly. You will have to be willing to put some distance between you and the person that wronged you if you want to be able to truly forgive. It's normal to feel anger and a whole mix of emotions as you sort through your feelings.

2. Remember That Nobody's Perfect

We all make mistakes and need to be forgiven at some point in our life. Acceptance of this fact can help you to be able to pardon others when it is necessary to do so. This tip can really help especially if the offender is not asking for your forgiveness. Just keep reminding yourself of the damage that anger and bitterness can do to your body.

3. Take It One Day at a Time

There will be days when you feel like you are suffocating from the pain or anger that you feel. Just put one foot in front of the other and keep on going. If you try to look at the whole picture, it might be too overwhelming. Instead, give yourself time to grieve. You must show acceptance to the fact that you are hurting.

4. Realize That You Don't Have To Forget To Forgive

Most people associate forgiveness with forgetfulness, but this is not the case. You can forgive, but you will most likely never be able to truly forget what happened. Some things hurt so deeply, that you will never be able to forget the wrong that was done to you. By showing acceptance to this simple fact, you will be able to move on at a quicker rate.

5. Seek Reconciliation If At All Possible

Don't wait for them to come to you. Once you realize how holding on to something can affect your body in a negative way, it can be easier to let go and forgive. Think of the health problems that can happen if you choose to be stubborn and hold onto what offended you. You can take back your power by acceptance of the fact that you were hurt very deeply and take action to step out and forgive. Forgiveness is a choice, not an emotion.

When you discover that you can make the decision to choose to pardon someone, it can make the process easier for you. Don't think of it as something that you have to do, but something that you are choosing to do.
By showing acceptance to the person that hurt you, you are one step closer to forgiving them. Whether the person asks you for forgiveness or not, you can show acceptance of the situation and understand that it can take a great deal of time to get over this type of pain.

Actions For Depression, Actions For Anxiety

Decluttering and cleaning your house remove the blockages and boost up the energy. Your family members and even pets may show to you the positive change in their behaviors.
Just imagine it is as detoxification when all negative waste is leaving your place. Don't forget to open the window while you work.  It is so simple, but powerful !

For people who experience an anxiety and low self-confidence, I just say Emerson's quote:

"Always, always, always, always, always do what you are afraid to do."

It works like a magic, at the first you may feel internal storm, trembling, head shaking, fast heartbeat, dizziness, all this will pass once your confidence grows and you gain the power doing what you fear about. Practice, practice and practice !